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I'm overwhelmed!

Writer's picture: Martine BoilyMartine Boily

Today, to say that we are "too busy" is a testament to our success. Among the many factors that drive performance culture is the fear of saying "no." It can be difficult to say no to requests for fear of damaging personal or professional relationships. For example: one of dozens of meetings, a happy hour, or a client meeting.

We can all agree that we are talking about controlling our time.


Knowing how to say “no” to someone means being able to set your own boundaries. We need your time, help at work, knowledge and much more. There is also the game of influence that we, as managers, often have to play.


In this case, some people want to transfer your power over others to their own benefit: your ability to choose and decide... We are constantly making choices and it is crucial to know how to assert ourselves and take our place.


Saying “no” to things that don’t suit us means being able to say “yes” to things we really want. It’s about taking back control of your time. A lack of self-confidence can make it difficult to say “no,” but that’s not always the case. We may need to be liked, popular, or afraid of damaging the relationship with that person.


I don’t know how to say “no” to my boss. What will be the result?


  • Will I lose my job?

  • Will I be capped professionally?

  • Will I alter my relationship with it?

  • Etc...

It’s hard to see that we can’t be authentic in our relationships and that can be upsetting. Developing self-confidence and saying “no” with civility can be learned and help you assert yourself on various occasions. It’s important to prioritize your own needs to effectively boost your self-confidence.


Practice and gain confidence!


Confidence and the ability to defend oneself can be developed. If a colleague asks you to do a job, can you refuse? There is no need to panic. It doesn’t have to be, but it takes practice to learn how to say “no” civilly.


Every small step is crucial to gaining self-confidence and being able to assert yourself. You will then be able to say “no” more easily and diplomatically, without damaging the relationship with your interlocutor.


Ladies and gentlemen, we must learn to make choices!


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